ET LOFTE EVENTS' 12 DAYS OF CHRISTMAS...ER...EVENTS: Part One

Christmas is almost upon us and so This Planner thought she'd share 12 of her favourite things to incorporate into weddings and events! So sit back with a hot cup of cocoa and enjoy Part One of Et Lofte Events' 12 Days of Christmas/Events!

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UNIQUE CUISINE COMBINATIONS

Pair completely different cultural cuisines to give your guests that "to-die-for" culinary experience. Whether it's Italian with Asian like Risotto infused with wasabi or ginger or French with Asian with Pan-seared sweetbread with veal and ancho chili dumplings served with Sichuan pickled relish, opting for uniquely paired cuisine will create that perfect party on the palate.

 

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 PERFUME/COLOGNE BARS

What is a better, more interactive way to pass the time during a cocktail function/hour than to make your own, personalized cologne or perfume? This Planner first saw the concept while reading about Shannon Doherty's wedding and was super stoked to see that Aromachology here in Toronto offers this service to wedding bliss everywhere. Guests get to create custom-created perfumes and personalized colognes at an on-site, pretty boutique-like set-up and store their wizardry in a bottle customized to the couple.

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 AWESOME SEND-OFFS AT WEDDINGS

Photo Courtesy of The Knot

Once upon a time, the Bride and Groom didn't stay until the end of their wedding reception. Well, they stayed almost to the end, but then they changed their outfits, said their good-byes and were sent off to their honeymoon with cheers from their loved ones. I love it when couples reach back to the good ol' days and reserrect this concept. But I love it even more when they arrange their departure with a bang! Sure you can go for the more common send-off via fireworks or crowds of guests waving sparklers or you can go for the more dramatic affect such as guests forming two long lines, each holding lit candles to create a lit pathway for their exit or a marching band leading the way out.

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 ART GALLERY-STYLE WEDDING RECEPTIONS

Ok, so having your wedding reception in an art-gallery is nothing new. In fact, it's a quite popular locale for sleek, modernist, intimate weddings. However, what we're loving right now is incorporating the concept of the Art Gallery as a means of personalizing weddings. Forgo the typical slideshow la-di-da and picture your wedding in a stark white or stone-walled room with oversized black and white photographs of your relationship and personal family histories on display on the walls throughout. Something to look at, something to talk about and definitely a subtle, yet striking touch.

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UNIQUE CAKE FLAVORS


Don't just go for the uber glamorous cake at your next function, take it one step further and match it with a flavor combo that's simply divine. Sure you can go the typical red velvet or ganache but why not stray from the ordinary and choose flavors that make you go "huh?" and "yum!" at the same time. From the sweet surprises like coconut with caramel/chocolate mousse a la Andy's Wedding Cakes to the wild and crazy like raspberry lemonade, the possibilities are endless!

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 HAND-PAINTED SHOES

Photo courtesy of Figgie Shoes

There is nothing more awesome than pairing a cute party dress or wedding gown with the ultimate in gorgeous shoes. What's even better is having customized, hand-painted shoes! We love that Figgie Shoes ships globally and whether pretty and posh or fun and funky, there's nothing that this artist can't do to personalize your tootsies!

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WARM COCKTAIL STATIONS

Ok, having a cappucino, esspresso or hot chocolate station isn't exactly unique. It's fun and cute, but not unique. So we're loving the twist on the typical by having a station towards the end of your festive soiree that offers up a variety of warm cocktails. Think drinks like Hot Toddy's, Hot Cafe Denis (coffee, kahlua and Baileys), Hot Peppermint Patties, Hot Buttered Whiskey or even as far out as Bloody Bulls (grey goose, warmed bloody mary mix and a dash of beef broth).

Photo courtsey of Martha Stewart

Stay tuned for Part Two of our 12 Days of Christmas/Events!

UNIQUE CHRISTMAS WEDDING IDEAS

The holidays are among us and in addition to the usual fa-la-la, some couples choose this festive time of year to get married. But Christmas weddings don't have to always be winter wonderlands or holly. I'm sure you've already seen our fave unique Christmas Wedding Theme for 2011. And we'd love to share some of our other ideas but this year we thought we'd put the call out to our fabulous Facebook and Twitter pals to see just how creative they can get with unique details for Christmas Weddings. We got a ton of responses and are more than merry to share some of the best here:


"Rustic winter...fau fur carpets under the tables and furs on the back of the chairs, some sort of fire log centerpiece, antlers on the wall...log cabin feel...with a fire place, bon fire smoked hors d'ouevres...favors wrapped as gifts...and a Christmas tree in the middle of the dance floor. Have a game where people dance around it and can win a prize" -- Renee Ferguson


"Nightmare Before Christmas theme...you could do really bloody or more cartoony like the film. Black and white...sparkly..." -- Erika Anne Dumencu

"A chestnut roast!" -- Cassiopeia Leigh


"55 ft fir tree with lights and a real live manger underneath!" - @JaniceLynnLewis


"A giant gingerbread house in lieu of a cake. Intricately decorated of course. A mass kris kringle exchange would be awesome too depending on the crowd." -- Nadia Frappa Oppedisano

"A Santa area where the adult guests get to sit on Santa's lap, tell them what they want for Christmas and get a photo taken with him as a wedding keepsake. Seriously, how often do WE get to do that?" -- @et_lofte_events


"Who-ville [theme]. There are Dr. Suess Christmas village houses available. You could use one house per table for a centerpiece or surrounding a wedding cake. The couple can use the houses as part of their [holiday] home decorations after the wedding. Or a Hawaiian wedding 'Mele Kalikimaka'! " -- Louise Drinnan

"Santa's Village Theme: servers dressed as elves, milk and cookie shots garnished with cookie [crumbs], female servers dressed as reindeer (antler headbands, red poofs for tails) on hoops suspended from the ceiling pouring champagne by the bar, DJ dressed as Santa?"
--  Deanna Ouzounis


"A Cake truffle tower where they are rolled in coconut so it looks like a pile of snow balls"
-- @dessertxdesign


Think YOU can top these ideas? Let's hear 'em!

WHO DO I TIP: WEDDING EDITION

As a Wedding Planner, I often get asked by clients who in their vendor list should receive tips. The question is a reasonable one. In fact, that my clients understand that tipping their vendors -- while not a requirement -- should be a major consideration, makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

Here is the short answer: Anyone, and I mean ANYONE who has provided a SERVICE with regards to your wedding should be tipped, if you are HAPPY with the service provided.

It doesn't matter if the service was for an hour or for a year, nor does it matter if you paid a discounted rate or an exhuberant fee. (Would you not tip your waiter at a fancy restaurant just because you already paid for a fancy meal?)  Bottom line is that if your Wedding Professional provided a service and you're thrilled with the outcome, TIP.

Now, unlike many other blogs, articles and web sites out there, I'm not going to sit here and lay out monetary suggestions, percentages or materialistic ideas. Yes, when it comes to things like monetary tips, there may be amounts to which many of us are accustomed. But those amounts are not mandetory, they're suggestions.  In my humble opinion, whatever you can afford as a tip for your wedding professional is acceptable, and again, at your discretion. After all, tipping is a way to show your appreciation for a job well done.

If you tip your Wedding Professionals, they know that you were happy with their service and truly appreciate all their hard work. If you don't, no matter how much praise you heap upon them, they'll likely spend many sleepless nights wondering what the heck they could have done wrong to make you not appreciate their efforts (and they likely will, because hey, no Wedding Professional is going to call you up and say "Hey, so I noticed that you didn't give me a tip...")

Now understandably, if your Wedding Professional, such as your venue or caterer for example, has Gratuity already incorporated into the contract, you don't have to provide an additional tip. And obviously, if you're NOT happy with the service, tipping would be out of the question (which is why you typically offer tips after the service has been rendered). But if you're happy and you know it, clap your hands and tip your vendors.

OK, OK, for those of you who really want a list of Wedding Professionals that should be considered for tipping, here is a rough idea, in no particular order:

Food/Beverage Professionals (IF gratuity is not already included in the contract)
-- this includes Catering/Banquet Managers, Servers and Bartenders

Any Venue Attendants
-- including Valet, Coat Room and Bathroom

Wedding Planner

Florist/Floral Designer

Decorator

Photographer

Videographer

Entertainment -- including ceremony musicians/singers, cocktail hour musicians/singers, DJ, Band, special performers, etc

Cake Designer

Stationary Designers (IF your stationary was custom designed)

Transportation
 -- limos, limo buses, taxi cabs, corporate cards, exotic cars, etc. 

Hair & Make-up

Officiant/ Minister/Clergy Member/Church (for Church's tips are normally in the form of a donation)

5 MAJOR PARTY PLANNING MISTAKES

So you've got a party in mind. Maybe it's your child's Birthday Party, or an engagement soiree or a special gathering to commemorate a milestone in your life. Congrats! Now begins the wonderful blend of tediousness and fun in creating a party that you believe is going to be the best one to happen in 2012!

Before you roll up your sleeves and get crackin', here are 5 Major Party Planning Mistakes that you will want to avoid. (Oh yes I could go on forever but I have only have a word count to adhere to...or try to adhere to anyhow):

1. THEMES THAT ARE NOT PROPERLY THOUGHT OUT

When deciding on a theme for your party -- whatever the celebration -- make sure you really think it through. Will it excite your guests? Is it suitable for the celebration? Will the guest of honor like it?  For example, while Planning an "Over the Hill" Birthday party for your family member or dear old pal might seem like a fun idea and, of course, the theme has the best (humorous) intentions, you have to consider the feelings of that person who has to sit through it. Maybe they're NOT OK with turning a ripe old age. Maybe they've been dreading this moment their entire life. And now they have to grin and bear a party that blatantly throws that fact in their face and pretend that it doesn't bother them.

That Tackle-Football themed party (complete with tackle-football game) or Ultimate Frisbee party may seem like a wild and awesome party to your college buddies...to your older or less physically capable friends or family...not so much.

Properly thinking through a thematic concept by keeping your guests, your guest of honour and the logistics in mind will help you create that party of the year...in a good way, rather than "THAT party of the year" in a bad way.

2. BAD HOSTS/HOSTESSES

This might leave you scratching your head a bit so let me explain. If you are the host of a party, relying on your guests to get the party started is a really, really bad idea. Your guests are arriving expecting to be entertained. Not the other way around. Whether it's chatting up your guests, breaking out the Karaoke or Rock Band or...eek...introducing an Icebreaker Game, it's up to YOU to get that party rockin'.

Hiding out in the kitchen prepping food/drinks is not the model for a good host/hostess either. As the host you should be making your guests feel welcome and mingling among them. If you have to enlist the help of others -- professionally or family/friend related -- then do so. If there's two of you hosting a party then take turns throughout the night as the kitchen maid and the host.


3. SENDING OUT INVITATIONS TOO LATE OR TOO EARLY (YES THAT'S POSSIBLE)

Not giving your guests sufficient time to plan in attending your fete is a major boo boo. Your guests need adequate time to sort out their schedules, find babysitting, purchase gifts (if that's what they want to do), arrange transportation, etc. Don't let your invitations be the last thing on your Party Planning To-Do List. It should be one of the first.

At the same time, giving your guests too much notice of your special gathering can backfire on you as well. Invitations sent too far in advance can be forgotten or misplaced. Here is a rough idea of when you should be sending out invitations (of course this depends on location, etc):

Birthday/Formal Dinner /Anniversary / Graduation Parties - 3 to 6 weeks
Cocktail Parties - 2 to 4 weeks
Weddings - 8 weeks to three months (local), 6 months (out of town/country)
Bar/Bat Mitzvah - 1 to 2 months
Thanksgiving Parties - 2 weeks to 2 months
Christmas Parties - 1 to 2 months
Housewarming Parties - 1 to 3 weeks
Lunch/Tea Parties - 1 to 2 weeks


4. MAKING THE PARTY LAST FOREVER

Sure, you never want this day to end. But your guests do.

Most parties that require a reception such as Weddings, Anniversaries, Bar/Bat Mitzvah typically go for on for 5 -8 hours or more. This is because there is usually a multi-course lunch/dinner followed by dancing set in place. However for parties arranged for Birthdays, etc, it's important to keep in mind your guests' comfort factor, age and, of course, food and entertainment. Remember, the longer the party the more food and entertainment needed.

Need a rough guideline? The average child's (in-home) Birthday party should be anywhere from 1.5 hours to 2 hours, depending on their age (younger means less time). The average adult (in-home) Birthday party should be anywhere from 2 - 3 hours. The average cocktail reception should be 2 to 4 hours. If you think that most of your guests typically arrive late, add an extra half hour buffer.

We've all been to that party where there wasn't a clear ending time and it seemed to drag on forever because no one wanted to be the first person to leave. By setting out a clear start and end time and building a proper timeline you'll have happy guests who had a good time and now can go about the rest of their day/evening not feeling guilty for "bailing early".


5. NOT PLANNING AHEAD

This is pretty much a staple in planning ANYTHING. You have to think about all the "what if's" that can happen during your soiree or else you could wind up looking like a bad host/hostess, no matter how beyond your reach the situation is. Having a party that involves a backyard BBQ? Plan ahead for increment weather. Having a Birthday Party for your 4 year old? Expect that not all parents are going to drop off their kids and leave (in other words, have adult drinks/munchies on hand!). Assuming that not all your guests are going to come? Forget that noise! Assume that ALL your guests are going to come and if you don't have enough space in your home to accommodate all invited guests, rent out a space somewhere else! Having a lot of guests or want your party to have a huge visual or entertaining impact? Budget appropriately!

By ensuring that all your i's are dotted and all your t's are crossed you can focus on throwing the best damn party ever instead of staring up at the threatening storm clouds wishing to high heaven you had more than one umbrella in your closet.

ET LOFTE EVENTS IS RUNNING FOR A CURE!

Today's post isn't about weddings or events. This is a wake up call about Breast Cancer and the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation's CIBC Run for the Cure.

Before you roll your eyes thinking that this is just another call for fundraising, consider this: Once upon a time, Breast Cancer was believed to affect women over the age of 40. Today, the statistics are staggering. 1100 women under the age of 40 are being diagnosed with Breast Cancer every year. What's even more scary is that 62 women in Canada are diagnosed with Breast Cancer every bloody day. It's not just our Moms, our Grandmothers or our Aunts that are being hit with this cancer. It's our friends, our sisters...it's ourselves. It's not just genetic. Only 5 - 10% of cases are caused by genetics. Every woman is at risk no matter age, race or DNA.

Et Lofte Events is taking part in the CIBC Run for the Cure on September 30, 2012. I personally will be running my butt off (5 KM ) to raise funds for the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation.

Why? Until I personally saw the destruction that Breast Cancer can cause, I was always non-chalant about it. That perception has changed emmensely.  I personally have seen what Breast Cancer can do when it rears it's ugly head. Having been attacked by Breast Cancer twice my mother struggled through repeated radiation treatments, a double masectomy and a constant fear of it coming back for a third and last time. My Mother-in-law has struggled through chemo when Breast Cancer struck her. I recently have heard from a dear colleague in the wedding industry that has been hit with Breast Cancer.

And for me personally, being a "high" risk candidate for Breast Cancer and undergoing yearly mammograms and MRIs means always looking over my shoulder and wondering if this is the year that they will tell me those four anguish-ridden words: "You have Breast Cancer".  So I'm running for a future where no woman has to live in fear, dread or suffer under the hideous grip of Breast Cancer. When you donate to the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation your money goes to research programs, education and awareness. Genetic screening for example (which made it possible to discover my high risk of getting Breast Cancer) is just one of the many incredible programs that have come out of research and funding. 

This is not just a request for donations. It's a plea for awareness. Even if you can't donate to the cause, you can promise This Planner here and now that you will get checked often and be aware. The more aware you are of this crazy cancer, the better your chances of stopping it before it hits home.  

Let's wipe out Breast Cancer and make pink just another colour again.

*statistics taken from cbcf.org and rethinkbreastcancer.com

PANTSUITS FOR BRIDESMAIDS: WHY WE LOVE THEM

Alright I'll say it: I'm not a dress kind of gal. Aside from the fact that I'm more of a tomboy who cringes at the mere thought of not having my legs covered, it's possible that the reason could be that it's difficult for me to find a dress that flatters my figure. Or maybe it's because I hate worrying about runs in my pantyhose (or bunching at the ankles for that matter). Or perhaps it's because I hate worrying about tucking my dress into the said pantyhose. Or that I have the whitest stick legs that would make even Casper the Ghost gasp...whatever.

Brides that opt for an elegant pantsuit for their nuptials rather than the traditional gown is something that isn't exactly new. Many Brides have embraced the concept and I love that's it's now considered somewhat 'normal' in wedding fashion. Even Mothers of the Bride and Groom have chosen to go the pantsuit route. But what you rarely see are Bridesmaids wearing pantsuits. 

Why is this a rarity? I'm not sure. I can think of at least a dozen women that would be thrilled to walk the ceremony walkway in the comfort and elegance of a beautiful pantsuit, whether it's long and flowing or sleek and chic. Not to mention it would be something that they could wear again...and again...and again...without having to wait for another wedding to come along.

From uber adorable jumpers to sophisticated slacks to beautifully draped 'onsies', pantsuits are a fashionably chic alternative to the typical Bridesmaid dress (not to mention a comfortable one!).

But what do YOU think?

5 WEDDING PLANNING MISTAKES (AND HOW TO AVOID THEM)

Wedding planning is no small feat. Trust me, as a Wedding Planner I get it. There are so many details, so many considerations and so many costs to keep in mind, that while weddings are a joyous affair, the physical planning of one can be quite daunting.

There are five whopping mistakes that I see couples make time and time again. While I wish I could be there to ensure each and every one of them sidestep these mistakes, alas that's not always possible. But you can read them here! And so, here are Five Wedding Planning Mistakes and how you can avoid such boo-boos.

#1. NOT MATCHING YOUR EXPECTATIONS WITH YOUR BUDGET
Everyone has a budget -- that magic number that you absolutely don't want to or can't surpass when it comes to pulling together your wedding. And that's OK. Even the most exuberant of weddings with skyscraper budgets have a cap number that they don't want to cross. But that having been said, having a strict budget is one thing. Wanting the world on that said budget is another. We've all heard the old adage "wanting champagne on a beer budget". There's a reason that it's a quote and not reality.

It's important when you're drafting your budget to take many things into consideration: your guest count, for example, will determine how big a bulk of your budget will be eaten (no pun intended) by your food and beverage costs. The style or formality of your venue will determine how costly or how cost efficient your celebration space will be. Your overall vision will determine whether you will need a variety of rentals like linens or stylish chairs or an exuberant amount of flowers or very little. Get the picture? Then you should go online and do some research. Get an idea of how much things cost. Now look at your budget. Is it realistic? If your budget doesn't match your expectations then you have to grit your teeth and be willing to compromise or sacrifice certain elements to make room for those wedding elements that are most important to you.

#2. NICKEL AND DIMING YOUR WEDDING PROFESSIONALS
This follows on the heels of the point above. Chatting with your desired wedding professional about how you can achieve the same look, feel, sound, etc at a lower cost or asking your wedding professional what compromises can be made to lower your costs are one thing. Expecting or trying to bargain with your wedding professionals to give you what you want for what you're willing to pay is another. If the wedding professional you want is out of your budget you have three options: increase your budget, compromise on what you want or find another wedding professional that does fit your budget. Wedding Professionals charge their rates for a reason: talent/skill, overhead costs, time, labour and quality/customer service are among them. Expecting to have all that and at what you're willing to pay is not only disrespectful but unrealistic. If you wouldn't go into a car dealership and expect them to give you a BMW for whatever you were willing to pay, you don't meet with a wedding professional and expect them to do the same. Focus on what your desired wedding professional can do for their rate and not merely the dollar signs.

#3. HAVING AN "IT'S ALL ABOUT ME" ATTITUDE
Yes, your family and friends are joining you to celebrate your marriage. No, that doesn't mean that it's necessarily all about you, what you want and again, all about you. At some point there's a line that has to be drawn. Now I'm not talking about having your wedding be a reflection of the two of you as a couple. I'm talking about the "It's my party and I'll do whatever I want no matter how it affects others" attitude. The wedding celebration is about you getting hitched, but how the celebration unfolds is about you and your guests. Just as you would do when hosting a dinner in your home, in a wedding you have an obligation to make your guests feel comfortable, give them a good time and overall show respect. Making your guests wait at the church because you want those extra photos is a no no. Making guests pay for their alcohol (or anything really) at the reception is a no no. Allowing your best friend to bring her baby but not allowing your other guests to bring children to the wedding is a no no. The list goes on and on. Make your wedding as much about pleasing your guests as it is about you and you'll have a wedding that everyone will remember...for all the right reasons.

#4. NOT HAVING BACK-UP PLANS
When planning a wedding you have to consider all the "what if's".  You have to have a back-up plan for pretty much anything. Having a backyard tented wedding? What if there is a severe thunderstorm? Hiring a DJ? What if his or her equipment breaks down? Hosting your reception on a long weekend? What if there's heavy traffic or a parade or special events happening throughout the city? Having pictures taken outdoors? What if it's raining? Getting around by your own vehicle? What if it breaks down? Always have a back-up plan and take the "what if" into consideration when you're planning all those nifty little wedding details. Check the contracts of your wedding professionals to ensure that they have a back-up plan should they be unable to perform their services on your wedding day. Leave nothing to chance. By having back-up plans you're safeguarding your wedding day from disasters and you'll walk down that aisle with a big chunk of piece of mind.

#5. HOSTING WHAT YOU (OR OTHERS) THINK A WEDDING SHOULD BE AND NOT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT.
I see this all the time. Couples read magazines and blogs or watch television programs and come to the conclusion that what they are seeing is how a wedding should unfold or should look like; or they allow outside influences like family to dictate how their wedding should be planned for fear of insult. There are five main things that you should really consider when you're planning your wedding: the overall experience for/comfort of your guests (i.e: the food, the entertainment, the etiquette, etc), your joint personalities reflected in your design, your budget, your religion and/or your culture (if that's important to you) and...wait for it...your marriage!!!  Dear Gawd, don't forget why you're there in the first place! Use media sources as inspiration, take the opinions of others as just that, opinions that you can implement or discard, and create a wedding day that you will always fondly remember, not a wedding day that you will, twenty years later, wish you had done differently.